6 Reasons to Date a Feminist

Forty-seven percent of women ages 18 to 35 identify as feminists, and given that 85 percent of Americans believe in equality for women — which is really the definition of feminism, even more are feminists without even realizing it. If you're currently on the dating market, then, it's very possible you'll have the chance to take a feminist on a date. Here are some reasons why you should. (This list is geared toward men who date women, but the overall message applies to everyone!)

Contrary to popular stereotype, most feminists won't get upset if you offer to foot the bill. I think it's nice and will always graciously accept if someone insists. I also understand, however, that we're in tough financial times, and there's no reason a man should have to pay for a woman's meal. Feminists don't want anyone to feel pressure to spend money he doesn't want to spend.

You know what other custom we find outdated and unnecessary? The idea that guys have to make the first move. This not only puts undue pressure on men but also leaves them guessing what we do and don't want. Though some of us are shyer than others, feminists believe women should be allowed to go after what they want, and they know that communicating their desires makes their partners feel wanted and helps make sure everyone's on the same page.

Feminists don't need you to be a muscular macho man who doesn't express feelings or have "feminine" interests. This means we won't judge you for liking Titanic . . . or crying at it. Sensitivity and vulnerability are positive traits in our book, regardless of your gender. We also don't care how much money you make as long as you can support yourself, since we plan to support ourselves as well.

Being a feminist requires challenging a lot of societal myths we're taught about sex: that women don't want it as much as men, that women should be submissive in the bedroom, that certain acts are abnormal, etc. Because we've questioned pretty much everything we've learned about sex, we're open to hearing what you're into and experimenting with new activities.

We won't try to pressure or guilt you into any bedroom activity you're not in the mood for, which is something everyone needs to keep in mind regardless of gender. But beyond that, we know consent extends well beyond the bedroom. It also means not pushing a subject you don't feel like talking about, not interrupting you when you request peace and quiet, not dragging you somewhere you don't enjoy going, and well, not doing anything without your consent.

Most feminists are keeping tabs on current events and politics, especially with so many issues affecting women currently in the news. Since we're big believers in equality, a lot of us are also passionate about other social issues. This always makes for interesting debates and discussions, even — no, especially — if we don't agree with you on everything.